By Bob Wynkoop
I used to love standing outside the door and watching my young children. They had no idea that I was there, and there was certainly something pure and beautiful in the innocence of their childhood play. They had not yet learned to be inhibited, they were simply doing what came natural to a child; playing, and living to the full. All I saw was goodness.
You can learn a lot about someone by their actions when nobody is watching. People will do what is natural to them, without inhibitions. If there is bad, you will see that manifest, but if there is goodness, it will be unmistakable.
As a hospice chaplain of many years, I have had the honor of working with nurses. I had always been impressed with their level of skill and commitment, but those things should be no surprise.
Let me tell you what I have learned, first hand, as an observer when they thought no one was watching. I have watched them show the greatest compassion:
Yes, you can learn a lot about someone by their actions when they think nobody is watching. I see goodness, and it is unmistakable.
Bob Wynkoop is the Chaplain at VNA & Blue Water Hospice. He visits with and counsels’ patients and families at their most difficult time. He also oversees the Blue Water Hospice Grief Help – a group offering support to those grieving a life-limiting diagnosis of a family member or those who’ve lost a loved one. This is a space to come together, grieve together, and support one another. The group is currently “meeting” online via the Blue Water Hospice Home Facebook page.